I will start with a disclaimer and say that this may not
apply to everyone. However, for those
that will receive this tidbit of wisdom I believe there is still hope for you
to “WIN YOUR WOMAN’S HEART AGAIN.” Do
you remember when you first met? Do you
remember how fun and exciting those times were?
Now ask yourself why. The truth
is as your relationship grows things will change as far as your relationship
but EVERYTHING DOESN’T HAVE TO CHANGE.
You can still experience many of those same feelings you had in the
beginning of your relationship.
Here are 3 quick things to help you WIN YOUR WOMAN’S HEART
AGAIN.
11- DO MORE! AND STOP POINTING FINGERS AT WHAT SHE
DOESN’T DO- Here is something that is
pretty consistent. I believe most men
play the victim role when they feel they are not getting what they “deserve.”
Most men say well “she doesn’t do this,
and she’s not that.” Well newsflash, YOU ARE NOT A LOT OF THINGS YOURSELF! The truth is neither of you will meet all of
the other persons expectations. However,
I’ve learned that men can’t play the victim and lead. SUCK IT UP. If you want a better response put
out more effort and take the initiative.
YOU COOK. YOU CLEAN. YOU PICK UP THE KIDS FROM DAYCARE. Yeah you might have a lot on your plate but so does she. As soon as you take accountability and do what’s in your power you will see her
slowly open up to you more and you will get more of the response you are
looking for.
2 2- STOP SAYING NEGATIVE THINGS- There is an old
saying that says “you catch more bees with honey.” I am not sure if that is actually true but I
do know that most men say negative things to their lady and expect a positive
response. THIS COULD NOT BE MORE
WRONG. She will probably be less likely
to show you the kind of response you want from her if you are spouting harmful
words. If you want your lady to be more
open to you SHUT UP AND THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK. Stop saying things that are
negative and mean. Now , you may think these
things from time to time but here is what I have learned. Most negative things are said as a reaction
to something that you may feel in a moment.
There is a difference between a “response” and a “reaction.” A reaction
is something that happens out of your feelings.
A response is something that comes after thought and careful
consideration. If you want to win the
heart of your lady start “responding” more and “reacting” less. Ask God for wisdom on how you can respond with
words that will be gentle yet clear about what you desire.
3 3- BE THE MAN. I may be old fashioned but I still
believe the man is the HEAD. This doesn’t
mean the man is the boss. This means the
man is the LEADER. If you want to be the
leader that means you must embrace what comes with leadership. Leadership is sacrifice. Leadership is
inconvenient. Leadership means you have to constantly be thinking about everything
in your care. Leadership is a greater form of service in disguise. I believe every woman no matter how strong
she is wants to count on her man to LEAD.
START LEADING! You put out a
vision for the house. You put together a plan for you finances. You take the initiative in organizing the way
your lives should go. You become more strategic about everything under your
care. Now of course you want to collaborate with your lady in all of these
areas. BUT JUST BE THE MAN.
I pray this is helpful and to the point. Let’s pray. Lord
God help us be better men. Help us to lead and love as you have loved us. In
the name of the Lord Jesus. Amen.
Jonathan Richardson, M.Div. is the Pastor of Faith Forward Church
Faith Forward Enterprises, INC. and Faith Forward Group, LLC.
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